Talk:Thoughts about Worries of Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow
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Markvd said ...
Jamesm said ...
I found this article very helpful because I am currently going through an experience that could be considered very negative for the health of one's own psyche but it is indeed just a mere episode and I shall not allow it to cause me any stress.
What I am experiencing is the temporary loss of my wife and 2 young children who are moving to Thailand, against my desire. I'll not see them from next Tuesday until April at the earliest.
But this article strengthens my motivation to fear not, worry not and grieve not, as it will simply be another one of those life events that are actually simply a learning experience that all of us human beings go through at one time or another.
I do need to try and understand how this event came about though and this is more difficult as there are so many factors: past events that affect the present, the compatibility of us as a couple, the economic factors that intrude upon our lives etc.
If I had a beamship I would not have to battle against the feeling of melancholy that I shall surely experience after they have gone to Thailand because I could see them at any time. That's a Pisces for you, I'm a dreamer.
--Jamesm 13:47, 15 January 2012 (UTC)
Sheila said ...
Sorry to hear that James. Maybe you can set up skype and talk to them that way? Relationships are very hard and need constant work especially when the kids are little, there always seems to be a lot more problems. The biggest decision you're going to make is whether you want to stay together or separate, but looks like maybe your wife took that decision away from you? You can't change the past but you can recognize the mistakes and not repeat them. Yes, Pisces always want to be the peacemakers. Keep your chin up and your head held high!
--Sheila 15:55, 17 January 2012 (UTC)
Jamesm said ...
Thanks Sheila, yes she had a choice (stay together or not) although she says I gave her no choice because of how I behave towards her. I tried to persuade her to stay in Scotland for many reasons, most of all for the benefit of the children (they need both of us around) but her mind could not be changed.
I'm definitely going to use Skype to see them. Thank goodness for Skype! Its not so bad thanks to Skype. Technology is making my life less stressful that's for sure.
Relationships are not my strong point I must say. I seem to frequently say things that annoy other people, including my wife. Whether its because I speak the truth and they don't like it or I genuinely said something offensive I'm often left puzzling over it and their, often negative, reaction...
--Jamesm 23:46, 17 January 2012 (UTC)
Markvd said ...
Don't worry James the power of love, the greatest of all things anyone can learn will hold the fort until April. That's not too long. I don't know the details of your situation, but it sounds as if you have great affection for your kids but you also should listen to the perspective of your lady. Compromise of sorts. What's done is done if she is away now, time could make the heart grow fonder. :)
--Markvd 00:19, 18 January 2012 (UTC)
Jamesm said ...
Thank you Mark thats sound advice. Compromise is mandatory when both human beings in a relationship are imperfect.
--Jamesm 19:28, 18 January 2012 (UTC)
RemRobinson said ...
I would like to add that as far as relationships go, when things are not going as I would like them to and I am feeling down in the dumps, I try my best to fulfill my responsibilities to myself and to others, be nice to myself and others, including and especially the other person in the relationship, and to be patient. Then the relationship will usually go the way that it should, hopefully.
--RemR 21:27, 18 January 2012 (UTC)
I think they should create a Creational Laws rating system once the entirety of the populace has learned to understand and implement correct use of the laws in daily life a huge meter above the Earth goes you get a prize. :) After the longest tenured class in the universe planet you have finally learned how not to steal. As they perfect each law Earth moves closer to excellence thus more good things revealed. I don't know if my planet Earth has the organized bunch that can accomplish a massive total of 10-12 recommendations, it seems too much for our feeble bunch at this time. I say we work on one at a time. I suggest we separate everyone around the globe into there various learning categories. I don't want to be anywhere near the thou shall not kill bunch. :)
--Markvd 19:53, 12 January 2012 (UTC)